1. The Eternal Umbrella called: Professional Secret
It is obvious that we cannot do without Professional Secrets in some ways. It is unthinkable that a suspect is warned by an open investigation that leads to his/her arrest.
When used appropriately, it is not even a problem for society. However, when the Professional Secret is used to hide things, the population is not supposed to find out, and there is a huge problem. And that is what we see time overtime again. It is not acceptable for several reasons:
– Parents, family, and society are entitled to know what investigators are doing in cases of disappearances, murder, or rape of a loved one. Whether it is a child or an adult. As soon as the family has been excluded from the suspect list, they need to be included in the investigation teams. Because they know how their loved ones are and how they react to events, the police do not. Too often, we see that the family is considered a nuisance, the enemy, … and that is not acceptable. We, the people, PAY them to do their job, so we are entitled to be informed.
– In many (proven) cases, we can see after years that the police did nothing at all. Sometimes the files contain only one paper: the reporting of the disappearance by the family or the loved ones.
– The secrecy also hides blunders, unprofessional behavior, refusal to investigate important leads, refusal to question suspects, and downright ignorance on behalf of those who are supposed to know how to lead an investigation.
– Sometimes, the secrecy covers up the blockages to hide pressure from ‘above.’ Pressure to bury an investigation where important people are involved. We have numerous examples of those cases worldwide. Especially in networks and even more where the crimes are used to blackmail ‘interesting’ people.
2. The 5 types of Child abuse:
There are 5 important types of child abuse. Each of them is painful for children. Those abuses mark children up to what they will become later in life. And it speaks that the image of themselves is devastating.
1. Psychological abuse: locking up children in closets, basements, attics, dark rooms… without food or water for undetermined times. Many of those children are terrified, not knowing when they will be released or even IF they will be released one day. Children do not think like adults. Children have no estimation of time like an adult. So, they have no idea if they are locked up for hours or for the rest of their lives. Such an idea is devastating. Fear releases huge amounts of adrenaline, and that is good unless the situation continues for long periods. The fight or flight reaction can only be useful for a short time. There are physical consequences linked to long periods of time in fear (too much adrenaline for too long)
2. Mental abuse: you are ugly, you are worthless, you are stupid, nobody will ever love you.… Parents, grandparents, caretakers, and others who are describing children that way throughout their childhood don’t seem to realize what this does to a child. For the rest of their lives, they will be convinced they are no good, that they are stupid, and that, indeed, nobody will ever love them, and the most damaging issue here is that those children think it is their fault. So, they live a life full of guilt and are almost visible targets for wrongdoers as child sex offenders and in later life: scammers, slave drivers, aggressive partners, etc. Some of those children risk to turn that feeling of guilt into anger and can become themselves dangerous adults, repeating the abuse on their own or even other children. These are the vicious circles for which society pays a huge price.
3. Physical abuse: Parents, grandparents or other caretakers hitting, burning, torturing, beating, … children. Often, we see that those perpetrators have themselves been victims of the same treatment during their childhood. They have ‘learned’ that this is the way to handle children. For them, it is a way to release their own stress and fear, but it also fits the way they feel about themselves: worthless, and so their children are worthless too.
4. Alcohol/drugs/medication abuse of one or both parents or caretakers… This is an abuse that is often underestimated. Children who have to deal with drunk parents suffer a lot. They never know how that parent will be; they must be prepared for violence every minute of the day. And this can change in a heartbeat. Suddenly, the parent loves them. This is so devastating children consider it all as their fault, while they are not responsible for the behavior of adults.
5. Sexual abuse of children: from disposing of children to porn to torturing and murder… The most devastating abuse among the others. Children who have been victims of sexual abuse are, in most cases, also victims of all the other abuses mentioned: the offenders abuse them psychologically (the abuse takes place in hidden places), and the mental messages the children receive are: you are worth nothing, you are an object, you deserve what you get… The physical abuse in rape cases are obvious in most cases. Often, the criminals are under the influence of alcohol, drugs, and medications, which lowers their inhibitions. So yes, sexual abuse is the worst abuse of all.
We know that children who have been victims of at least 3 of the 4 traumas have a high risk of suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder on long term (which means almost through life without treatment).
A WORLD OF WANTED CHILDREN WOULD MAKE A WORLD OF DIFFERENCE
3. The effect of Child Sex Abuse on society worldwide
What does a society want in case of crimes?
1. Punishment for the wrongdoer. This can be many things, but prison is the most devastating in child sex crimes because this is a very disturbing crime on the integrity of a human being. Because most offenders put the blame on the victim. This is one of the reasons many victims do not report the crime against them. They feel guilty about a crime they are not guilty of. Often the victim is not believed and even punished for reporting sexual abuse. And one does not talk about things he or she did wrong. Offenders know that very well; that’s why they blame the victim: “YOU came to see me.” “YOU did not say NO”. “YOU provoked me…”) A prison sentence – even a very short one – makes it clear to a victim that only the offender is to blame. Prison sentences mean at least 70 % of the healing of a victim.
2. Recovery/restoration/reconstruction of the damage done for as well the victim as the whole of society. Restoration can be many things. There can be a financial arrangement or regulation. There is the treatment which is not easy for offenders and takes approx. 18 months of intense work. Then you have the sincere regret. Our society is not informed enough of what communication between an offender and a victim can mean for the victim. That is because of a lack of understanding of the dynamics between victim and offender. It is important for a victim to know WHY did this person do this to her/him. Unfortunately, it is mostly forbidden for the criminal to contact the victim. This is alright, but why not consider ‘in-between’ specialists to make that necessary bridge? Especially when the victim wants to hear that explanation from the offender.
3. Relapse prevention: The child sex offenders I treat start with signing a ‘Contract of NO CONFIDENTIALITY’. Does this mean I will spread that what we are working on in therapy will be diffused all over the planet? No, it doesn’t. But all probation officers, police departments, the justice department, the counselor of the victims, and everybody involved in the damage done can come to my office, and we’ll go over what I am doing with the criminal. These people have the right to know. Sexual criminals are amongst the highest rates of relapse. 98 % of them relapse within an average of 4 days after leaving prison without treatment. This means that the therapist treating a sex criminal has a huge responsibility towards the community. The community has the right to know what he or she is doing to prevent relapse.
Interviewing severely harmed victims
Get the person on ease. Be at ease yourself. Don’t get shocked by what you will hear. Stay in control of your own emotions and try to manage the witness’s emotions. Make sure you healed yourself when you have been victimized before starting to help restore victims. (See module 1 and/or 2)
Ask the victim to tell their story and what they want to tell. Don’t push. Say nothing but listen. Start the first sessions in ‘interview in Free Recall.’ This means letting the victim talk.
Interview in Free Recall
The victim tells his or her story. It can be very erratic, not coherent, confusing, very emotional, or, on the contrary, ice cold. Don’t show your reaction; just watch and listen. Take notes of what is not clear but don’t ask a question. Nod your head from time to time to show you are with them. Never give a sign of disbelief. When the victim is losing it, comfort her of him. Show you are there for them and won’t let them on their own. Give the victim the time to tell his/her story. There might be long pauses. Respect them.
When you see that the victim is losing it (dissociating, regressing), intervene in a nice way. Say things like: “Don’t go away. Stay with us/me. I’m not going to abandon you. I’m here for you. There is no danger. You are safe here. I understand it is difficult for you. But remember, you have been a victim; you are not a victim anymore. You are sharing your traumatized memories with us, but you are not reliving them in reality now…”
When you see (please be very attentive to the signs) that a victim is ‘gone,’ which means she/he is dissociating, you wait for a few seconds. You know the victim is leaving as soon as you see empty eyes. This means that the victim retreats from reality and will not respond anymore. The body is there, but it is empty. The victim goes to a place in his/her head where it feels safe. Sometimes victims get out of their bodies. They know how to do this because they used it as a survival method when they were tortured, raped, or harmed. They then can see their body from above, but they are not in it anymore.
When you observe this happening, you must intervene very quickly before it is too late. If you wait too long, the victim is gone, and it can take hours before you can get her/him back. Say things like: “I see you want to leave. Don’t. You are safe here. Nobody is going to hurt you. We are only listening to your story, and we will do whatever is possible to get Justice done to you”. Keep talking until you hit a button where the victim feels safe enough to come back. Don’t use sentences like: ‘You are doing a great thing for other victims too.’ At the very moment of dissociation, there are simply no other people in the mind of the victim. It is all about surviving. Alone.
When the interview in Free Recall is over, you start the Cognitive Interview.
Look at the notes you took over things that were unclear or too confusing for you. Ask gently to explain this item. Most victims will do this. Take notes.
Sometimes you’ll see victims telling their story in a very organized way. This can also be confusing, but often, this is because they had to tell their story so many times before. Be aware that a lot of these stories can be fabricated. When the first interview was not conducted the way I explained above (Free Recall), the victim most certainly was confronted with disbelief by the first interviewer. They then try to fill in the gaps themselves because they want to be believed. And to obtain this, they understand that their ‘story’ must fit, that it must be fluent. That doesn’t mean the victim is lying its way through interrogation; it only means they want to be heard and believed. Ask the victim at the end of their talking if they have been telling this story to others previously.
I prefer the confused story and work it out later. This gives a more accurate version of the truth.
Questions to be treated in hearing victims of awful sexual abuse:
- How will we handle false allegations? As said, for 1 ‘victim’ lying, 10 honest victims are no longer believed.
- Be aware of the huge defragmentation, regressions, splitting of alters, and suicidal feelings… of victims during and after having testified. Who is taking care of them?
- Is there the possibility to explain in the report what a child sex offender/Child killer is, why they do what they do, what the causes may be, what the prognoses for treatment are, …
- Making the crowd worldwide aware of what satanism is:
- Satan = used as a cover to hide their own perversions
- God = used to justify the crusades and the control over people
- Allah = used to justify violent bombings and to gain power over the world
- Hitlers = used to hide behind personal frustrations, hate, and cowardice…
- It is important to take down the ‘dark’ curtains and expose those terrible criminals to light. The best way to do this is to take away the curtains they hide behind.
As I said in this document, it is important to punish criminals. Criminals who torture and murder children out of lust cannot be treated anymore. I propose to arrest those known and put them all together on Epstein Island or just away from society. We give them food for one year and seeds to start their own food chain. Veterans can guard the island to avoid escape. This is one of the very important signals for the people and victims (see above) to show that we are serious and handling to their demands (point one of what a society wants), and it also shows that we are not only writing reports (as have been done thousands of times without any result).
In fact, it is in their (the criminals) own interest to ‘protect’ them against an outrageous crowd when they discover what is happening in our world.
I am convinced that many veterans will jump on the opportunity to finally do what they wanted right from the start when they joined the Army or Navy: protecting society from evil. (I do know of veterans who would really like to do this)
Please have a look at how – in a peaceful way – we can start to wake up society. Not violent and not group-like. No ‘MeToo’ situations. We need to touch each individual in his/her heart where they KNOW what is right. A group is vulnerable to being recuperated or targeted by evil; individuals are not. 7 billion individuals are an unbeatable army.
Go to the webpage ‘prevention flyers’ and carefully examine the messages in combination with the pictures.
The Sexual Criminal
The most asked question of victims of sexual abuse as well as most people in our society, is:
“Why do people commit such horrible acts, especially on children?”
The answer is as astonishing as simple: They do it because they like it. They do it because they can.
Regardless of what psychiatrists claim. Irrespective of what lawyers say in courtrooms: they do it because they like it.
From there, it is essential to analyze WHY they like it. And that takes time and expertise.
Before questioning sexual predators, you need to know them. To get to know them, you don’t start by asking questions about the crime(s). You start with talking about them. Who are they? How did they grow up? What is their life experience? Why are they angry? …
It is my experience that sexual criminals and serial killers have a very high IQ but a terribly low EQ. (Emotional Quotient) This means you cannot beat them on a rational level, but you surely can on an emotional level. On the emotional level, they score between 3 and 7 years of age. Easy to move them to confessions based on undeniable facts.
How do they react when first questioned?
- With denial
- By minimizing the facts
- By slowly confessing when they start to trust the interrogator and when they are confronted with the evidence
Never judge the person; judge their behavior and their crimes.
For more information on the different profiles of child sex offenders, read the book: ‘Child Hunters’. You can find the book on the website in our bookshop